Sunday 21 October 2018

In the midst of life

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Mr T and I went to a free talk at the Alfred East Art Gallery on Friday: 'Treasure in Northamptonshire', all about the archaeological finds from this neck of the woods and the Portable Antiquities Scheme.  It was only a hour, but we both came away intrigued by what might be underneath our town.

It was a warm day, the room was a bit stuffy and the lights were dimmed so we could see the screen properly. We weren't surprised, then, when an elderly lady a couple of rows in front of us appeared to nod off about halfway through. She leaned on the shoulder of the woman to her left,  who pushed her back over to the right, where she rested on the shoulder of a man. This couple were definitely with the old lady, perhaps her son and daughter-in-law.

Anyway, the old lady slumped right down in her seat and the man tried to rouse her by shaking her arm. Then he put his hand around the back of her neck and hoicked her upright, rather like a cat might gather up a kitten. The lady stayed in place for a few seconds, but then slumped back on to his shoulder. This made us smile at first; but then we started to wonder if perhaps something was amiss - and yet neither of the 'chaperones' seemed unduly concerned and kept their attention on the speaker.

It was only at the end, when the lights came back on, that it became clear the lady was not asleep. At best she had passed out. (Mr T assures me she was still breathing, but I'm not convinced.) Very discreetly, gallery staff asked us to clear the room as the lady was moved to the floor. As we left, an ambulance could be heard on its way.

I learned later that the lady's husband has died a couple of months ago, so she probably wasn't at her best anyway. I wondered about the conversation that might have taken place before she set off on what might well have been her last trip out. Did she want to go to the talk? Did she feel unwell at home, but didn't want to say for fear of upsetting her well-meaning family? Did she realise she was drifting while she sat listening to the talk?

What really bothers me, though, is why the man didn't realise that she wasn't just asleep.

8 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness, what an awful situation, Julia. How on earth did the family not realise something was amiss, or perhaps they didn't want to know... bit of a freaky situation!

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    1. They almost seemed a bit irritated! Of course, I've assumed they were family. It is just possible they were random strangers, but that would make the situation even more peculiar.

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  2. Sorry you had to see that, Julia. Perhaps the woman wasn't cognitively well or communicative to start with, so the younger couple may not have been able to tell the difference.

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  3. We are so alike. I would have framed all those questions around the event as well. Thinking about things like that darn near paralyzes me at times. As in when a child is murdered or the like. Too bad you couldn't find ut what happened to her.

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    1. Perhaps I'll ask next time I'm at the gallery; but it's a fine line between showing concern and being morbidly curious.

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  4. Very disturbing for you.

    Perhaps she has a history of nodding off in such situations? There's a lady who comes along to a group I attend who often sleeps for part of it – I think the effort of getting there exhausts her, but the nap during it revives her enough to be taken home again.

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    1. Yes, Patsy. Perhaps the people with her thought, 'Oh, she's off again,' and were alarmed when the awful truth dawned.

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